7 Things to Know About Clutter


I’ve done it a couple of times.

Packed up all my belongings and either dragged them across the miles or stuffed them into storage bins or closets and rentals while I embarked on a new life chapter. In the past 22 years I’ve moved from Sacramento to Los Angeles, to Sacramento, to San Francisco and back again (twice). Perhaps this makes me a city hopper, a Gypsy, or just restless (the less romantic option), but most definitely the Queen of fresh starts and reinvention (sorry Madonna).

In this Spirit, each move evoked a massive sweeping of everything I accumulated between relocations. This usually translated into massive donation drop offs or thrusting belonging upon willing friends (like my art supplies).

Despite the grand undertaking, I always enjoyed the deep seeded satisfaction of sweeping through things (lots of things), and clearing them from my life. It felt like taking a big indoor broom and sweeping through my inner life, leaving me feeling fresher and lighter. Akin to cleansing the palate. These days I wonder, can I just always live this light? And what is standing in the way?

….Well, apparently lot. Here’s 7 things I’ve learned about the accumulated stuff we call clutter, what stands in our way of clearing it, and once we are ready, how to let it all go - sustainably.


They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. In some ways so is clutter. But there are definitely some non-negotiable items that belong on that clutter list.

These include:

  • Piles of paperwork that need to be shredded

  • Clothing that no longer fits

  • Anything that is broken, ripped, stale, expired and downright unusable

  • Any items you have in excess (100 towels, or 50 spam cans - yes, really)

  • Items that are no longer used or useful (think old hobbies and corresponding bits and pieces you will not use anytime soon).

More broadly, clutter is anything that blocks your physical pathway, and /or transmits (or vomits) visual chaos across your space.

So getting rid of these things only make sense, right? Yes, but we convince ourselves otherwise.



We tell ourselves a lot of things. We turn seemingly logical arguments into convincing reasons why our stuff needs to stay.

We say:

  • One day I will fit into my smaller sized old clothes.

  • One day we may have another baby --- or have grandchildren.

  • I might be able to use this again in the future.

  • This could be worth something someday.

  • This belonged to (my parents, children, fill in the blank).

  • This was a gift. I can’t give it away.

  • I don’t want to waste it.

  • The Ex (spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover) was a significant part of my life.

  • I won this in my divorce. It’s mine. I don’t care that it reminds me of a painful separation.



Feelings. And then more feelings.

  • Denial (that we have changed or outgrown the things around us).

  • Fear (of losing out of on opportunity or a resource).

  • Guilt (“They would kill us if they knew we gave it away!”).

  • Shame (For not being able to live up to the standards we feel we can’t meet).

  • Attachment (Inability or unwillingness to let something, or someone, from the past go).

  • Grief (Sometimes there is a genuine, painful grieving process when we let our past go).

Let’s be real. These emotions are not easy to deal with. But in order to liberate ourselves, our lives and our space, the only way to the other side, is through. Deep breath.



As energetic beings, we are in constant relationship with the environment and people around us. We do the energetic dance with things, the energy they carry, and the emotions they invoke.

Personal space is both a beautiful reflective mirror and a two way street. What do I mean by that?

Visual chaos, either reflects or triggers mental chaos (think scattered, unorganized thinking - I’m talking to you person who just put your keys in your fridge).

So, the inner reflects the outer. Always. And the outer reinforces the inner. Always.

Not only does clutter cloud your thinking, but can take up energetic and emotional space. Consider any object that evokes a painful memory or feeling. It literally, metaphorically and energetically takes up space and keeps you ‘stuck’, most likely somewhere you don’t want to be.



Start with small tasks you can complete in one day.

For a very methodical approach to sweeping through everything you own, Marie Kondo is your new best friend.

In the meantime, here are 4 categories of things to get rid of in your home (as in pronto).

1. Any object that reflects or invokes pain, or any unsettling response in you.

It doesn’t matter how expensive or how unique it is, if the mere presence of the thing is like perpetually ripping off a band aid that will not let an old wound heal, it has to go.

2. Any item that is broken, expired, stale, old and non-functioning (including the Victoria Secret lotion set you got for Christmas 5 years ago).

If you can’t use it, you can’t eat it, or it will make you break out in hives, it has to go.

3. Any item that reflects a time in your life you have fully grown out of.

Old clothing and hobbies fit into this category (you haven’t snowboarded, in like,10 years).

4. Drop the fear, shame, guilt, procrastination, indecision (a form of procrastination), and corresponding anxiety like hot cakes.

They will not serve you. Take a deep breath. When you experience one of these emotions, go a layer deeper. Ask, why? What comes up? Then go a layer deeper. There may be lot of information for you to uncover and process. Give yourself permission to go there and truly ignite change.



Unlike Marie Kondo, I DO NOT recommend throwing everything away. I firmly believe in closing the product loop and keeping as many things out of our landfills as possible. (#EarthDayEveryday).

Consider the following:

  • Recycle (plastic, glass, cardboard, electronics)

  • Re-Sell (There’s several apps for this)

  • Return clothing to vendors who recycle or up-cycle their products (H&M, Uniqlo)

  • Donate items to community thrift stores

 Be sure to remove these items from your space as soon as possible (if you are in SF, you can bet there’s service/ app for that), otherwise, you may change your mind or someone may begin pulling things out of the bin!



We are habitual beings by nature (meaning physiologically). While our decision making habits form in the prefrontal cortex of the brain, once they become habit they live in the basal ganglia. It’s how we get things done on auto-pilot (like parallel parking - if we’re good at it).

Breaking habits and forming new ones, at first, takes a conscious effort. Keeping a space decluttered after it has been cleared means forming new ways of thinking about consumption.

When consuming new things consider the following ideas:

  • Do an inventory of what you have before you buy something new (you don’t want to buy the same thing twice).

  • Buy eco-friendly, sustainable products.

  • Consider why you are purchasing an item (need a pick me up feeling, or do you genuinely need it).

  • Purchase only what you need, at the equivalent rate you will consume it.

  • Buy fewer, high quality things (they will last you longer and will take up less space!)


  1. In what ways are you cutting out the (mental, emotional, physical) clutter in your life?

  2. What is the #1 advice you would give to someone adopting the less is more lifestyle?

Thank you for taking the time to journey with me today.

From my heart center to yours, Noemi